at thrift stores costing seven dollars, leaves his shit EVERYWHERE, tracks snow all around the house, and has not ONCE, not even once, asked me about my life, about my mom's cancer, about how I feel about anything. He refuses to watch any of the shows I like, insisting on watching football or the news. He grabs my boobs and puts his cold feet on my warm legs. He wears my father's robe wide open so that not only am I utterly repulsed by his hairy pregnant belly, but I will always feel a perversion to my father in his robe now. I don't know why I maintain friendships with utter losers who make me feel like shit. He's not the only one! Guys who have continually used me as a doormat, broken my heart, bruised my ego, etc. I want to be their best friends! Why is that? Why can't I just cut assholes out of my life? What is it about me that only attracts sexually deviant, manipulative babies? Am I asking for it? Am I deviant? How do you cut these guys out of your life? I feel like the more self confident I get, the more I'm able to say "no" and say "you're an ass, this is why..." but keeping these guys around at all is detrimental to a continuous growth of self-confidence. Yeah, they think I'm cute/funny/will buy them drinks maybe but none of them like me enough to actually treat me well! Fuck. Guys are fired from my life. (Except for Alex and Ryan...and my dad as long as he's not wearing that robe). I refuse to be any man's port in a storm. They've got to start appreciating the things I do to take care of them and then take care of me when I need them! Power to the peoples.
6 years ago
ewww that guy sounds like a total douche. seriously, you are way too hot for that. that thing about putting his cold feet on your warm legs made me want to punch him, cuz i HATE when people do that crap! get him out of your life, and fast!! sooo not worth the lame company.
ReplyDeleteya, i'm pretty sure i never liked that guy. remember when i was a bitch to him? yay me. ew look at him in our old apartment.
ReplyDeleteThis happens to me too. It's like I'm a masochist and like the abuse!! It's basically on some sort of cycle for me as well. For months I will be crushing on some super nice awesome guy and then will come along my ex or some ex hookup and I will completely push the great new guy away to be treated like a piece of shit. I know I need to cut these guys out of my life pronto but I am just glad I am not the only one in a situation like this. We are both too amazing for this kind of abuse.
ReplyDeleteWell, I feel proud to be the first and only of the harrier sex to write a rebuttal.
ReplyDeleteThis is not a case of slings/arrows of outrageous fortune, it is self-resignation. You know who the good guys are. You are smart, cultured, well-spoken and attractive and finding your like would be difficult, but definitely within the myriad scope of your talents.
Not all guys are so brazenly weird and belly-exposing (though I gave him points for that one), but they do tend to become babies when treated as such. Most guys find it very easy to revert to thumb-sucking indolence whenever they are presented with a willing mater. Don't hate the player, hate the game.
But the answer to these questions, like most others, is in the asking... Why do I LET MYSELF be treated like shit by assholes? That is why... You let them burrow and bullshit their way into uselessness. Women should take their men to task and demand their cold feet warmed from time to time.
There's no mystery about why 'good girls like bad boys,' it's fucking atavistic low-ball, just like why geezers prefer younger women (loosens collar, grinning sheepishly). This isn't Cupid and Psyche it's bonk-you-over-the head-and-back-to-the-cave-alicious predictability. So go out and club the one you want and be alert to the obvious signs of regression.